November 20th, 2014 by lifemoxie

One Vote Determined the Eatontown Mayoral Race… Does it matter when you show up?

 

I  love small town politics. I know the candidates. I know the issues. I go to the polls and I state my opinion with my vote. I never vote party line. I vote based on what matters to me and my town. And in that experience, I know that my vote matters to the candidates.

This year every voter mattered in the mayoral race in Eatontown NJ. When the polls closed, the longtime Mayor Gerald Tarantolo had won by one vote. When the five valid provisional ballots were counted the next day, he had officially lost by three votes. Mayor Tarantolo went from winning because one extra person showed up to losing because three other people showed up.

Irrefutably, every person who decided to vote in Eatontown NJ made the difference. It mattered that they showed up.

Do you believe it matters when you show up? Do you RSVP to parties? Do you show up late to meetings? Do you return calls and texts? Do you respond when people reach out? Do you vote?

We only matter if we make ourselves matter. We only make a difference when we show up.

 

September 11th, 2014 by lifemoxie

“Mentoring is not our priority”

A Learning & Development specialist scoffed these words at me recently, “Ann, mentoring is not a priority for us.”

Without missing a beat, I responded, “Mentoring is never a priority. But it is the best solution for driving your priorities.”

Of course mentoring is not a priority!

No one wakes up at 5am distressed thinking, “I need to figure out how to get my team into mentoring!”

Here’s what we do wake up worried about:

* How do I get my managers to act more into leaders?
* H
ow do I get people to execute and produce better results?
* W
hat should I do about the imminent retirement of Pam and Stan?
* How do I solve my productivity problems?
*
How do I end the mediocrity and complacency before it becomes the norm?
* How do I get people to collaborate more and stop making the same mistakes?
* How do I reduce regrettable attrition?
* How do I increase people’s ability to think and act innovatively?
* H
ow do I improve sales?
* How do I lower expenses?

Now THOSE are night-sweating, heart-racing, wake-me-up-early sort of priorities.

And in each of those situations, we can leverage mentoring to help us address the urgency / concern / problem.

How? By connecting those organizational priorities with people’s potential. Mentoring for the sake of mentoring is a waste of time and energy. The organization has problems to solve and people want to engage in activities that make a difference. They don’t volunteer for mentoring because they’re bored and need more friends on FaceBook. People want to make a difference. Mentor people to act like leaders, you will have new leaders. Mentor people to derive an innovative solution to a problem, you will have people thinking and acting innovatively. Mentor people on new sales approaches, you will improve sales.

That’s how you connect with your organization’s priorities. Mentoring should never be your priority, but people should.

In dismissing mentoring as not a priority, the L&D “specialist” was merely highlighting her own gap in understanding what is important to the organization and how to solve for it. She might consider shifting her focus back to people as her priority. Then mentoring will be one of her best solutions.

August 4th, 2014 by lifemoxie

6 Ways to Check the Effectiveness of your Mentoring Program

There are so many ways to ‘do mentoring.’ It’s easy to read an article and succumb to the notion that one way is better than another. Here are a few of the dichotomous proclamations leaders have made to me just this past week:

 

  • “Millennials want informal mentoring! No structure. They want to create their own structure.”
  • “Informal mentoring doesn’t work. Mentoring only works if it’s highly structured.”
  • “Mentoring is an expectation of being a leader.”
  • “Our leaders don’t have time to do mentoring.”
  • “Mentoring needs to be in groups.”
  • “Mentoring needs to be among peers.”
  • “We’re looking at sponsorship instead of mentoring.” (I told his person to read my blog on the myth of sponsorships)
  • “Mentoring is essential to people’s success but they will have to find a way to do it on their own time.”

 

Let’s stop focusing on the format and start focusing on the results mentoring produces.

 

Here are 6 ways to check if your mentoring initiative is effective:

 

1. Strategy is at the core

Your mentoring is aligned with a corporate priority and you have a clear picture of what you’re trying to accomplish. Is your mentoring program set up to specifically drive an initiative that the organization values? (I actually had a program leader insist that the purpose of his program is to see if mentoring works. That’s like using a word to define the word…)  Do you have a clear picture of what you’re trying to accomplish? What is the goal for your program and what does success look like?

  

2. Success is being measured

You are measuring the success of mentoring. And please don’t just use feedback forms to measure whether your participants enjoyed the training, the workbook, and their Mentor. Think bigger! Think strategically. Think like an executive. You need to be measuring whether you moved the needle on the strategic focus and accomplished your goals.

 

3. Scalable to easily add more participants

Your mentoring should scale to reach more people. If you design your program so that it requires an inordinate amount of administration such that you cannot easily add more participants, you cripple its potential to make a difference.

 

4. Sustainable beyond you

If your program requires you to constantly breathe life into it, it is not making a difference. And neither are you. Your program needs to shift the ownership of success from you to the participants. They need to be responsible for their own success in the program.

 

5. Simple to administer and participate

If your program is not simple, forget it. People don’t need more complications in their lives. They need easy wins. Help them to win at mentoring by keeping your program simple to administer and simple to participate.

 

6. Significant

Your program needs to make a difference for your participants and for your organization. Short of that and you have nothing more than a happy hour for employees. How to test significance? Go back to the strategic focus and success measures to ensure your program and participants are aligned accordingly.

 

Stop worrying about the format and start worrying about the 6-S Effectiveness Test: Strategy, Success Measures, Scalability, Sustainability, Simple, Significant. It doesn’t matter if the structure of your mentoring program is traditional, reverse, group, reciprocal, peer, forwards, backwards, upside down or sideways. If its ineffective, then so are you.

 

July 10th, 2014 by lifemoxie

The Glitch in Group Mentoring

When you’re battling a shortage of Mentors, you want to make the most of the few you have. Why not pair one Mentor with two or more Mentees for what is commonly known as “Group Mentoring.”

 

It sounds like a great idea. But there’s an odd glitch that often causes its swift demise.

 

Group Mentoring

This form of mentoring occurs when 1 Mentor is paired with 2+ Mentees. Sometimes a “group” can involve 5-10 Mentees. But never forget that effective mentoring requires more than warm bodies.

 

How is it supposed to work?

The Mentor meets with the Group on a regular basis to discuss mutually beneficial topics and issues. A Mentee in the Group will share a situation or ask a specific question and the Mentor will offer guidance that applies to the whole Group, thereby mentoring everyone simultaneously with his/her wisdom.

 

The benefits of Group Mentoring

  • * This structure allows you to leverage a few Mentors to share their wisdom with many Mentees
  • * Many Mentees are exposed to the Mentor where they might not otherwise have ever had the opportunity to work with or learn from that person
  • * Mentees get visibility that is often previously unattainable
  • * Mentees expand their own network by connecting with other Mentees in the Group

 

The Drawbacks of Group Mentoring

  • * Significant issues are rarely addressed as a result of group dynamics and lack of trust/intimacy
  • * Fear of confidentiality causes Mentees to withhold information
  • * Fear of judgment prevents Mentees from asking questions
  • * Logistical challenges cause frustration and delays
  • * The Mentor never really gets to know any of the Mentees

 

The biggest glitch of Group Mentoring

In classic 1:1 mentoring, the onus is on the Mentee to drive the relationship. The Mentee is responsible for identifying their goals, suggesting an agenda, asking questions, setting up meetings, and reaching out to the Mentor with what they need specifically when they need it.

 

But in Group Mentoring who is driving the experience? Who is responsible? Who is in charge?

 

The reality of Group Mentoring

Ultimately the Mentees look to the Mentor to drive their experience, lead the group, and be responsible. Inevitably, and as a result, the group usually fizzles out without much impact after the first few meetings. Why? Because no one owns the Group’s success.

 

Why leaders run screaming

Imagine you are a busy SVP. You believe in mentoring, but you’re constantly slammed with end-of-quarter pressures. Someone in HR asks if you will be a Mentor for a Group of Mentees. You are told that all you need to do is show up and espouse your wisdom once a month. You feel guilty that you have not contributed more since you became SVP. And this sounds like an easy way to do so. You agree. You show up only to discover a room of 8 Mentees looking at you expectantly with hope and anticipation glimmering in their eyes. They are ready to be led and guided by you, the SVP, their new Mentor. You quickly realize that you’re in charge, responsible for leading the discussion and encouraging participation, and accountable for the logistics of the group.

 

What do you do?

 

You call HR and say, “I’m too busy for this. I need to withdraw.” And another group in Group Mentoring goes down in flames…

 

Suggestions for how to make Group Mentoring work in the face of that glitch:

  • * Assign a Facilitator to champion the group’s success.

This Facilitator is then responsible for:

  • * Setting up a structure and a schedule for the group before it launches
  • * Identifying the purpose of the group – what they should discuss and accomplish
  • * Determining the measures of success for the group – objectives to accomplish individually and as a group
  • * Establishing group trust as soon as possible
  • * Asking a new Mentee to drive the discussion and agenda at each meeting
  • * Following up with each Mentee in between meetings

 

With an assigned Facilitator, set structure, clear expectations, and an actual deliverable, the glitch in Group Mentoring can easily be debugged.

June 25th, 2014 by lifemoxie

The Ripple Effects of Reverse Mentoring

Thanks to some intrepid companies such as GE, Cisco, Intel, and P&G, reverse mentoring is getting a fresh spotlight.

 

What is Reverse Mentoring?

It’s a form of mentoring that requires us to reverse our assumptions about the roles people play. In this structure, a junior-level colleague is the Mentor and a senior-level colleague is the Mentee. Picture the Individual Contributor mentoring and a Manager or a Vice President.

 

But this structure will only work if we adopt a pliable definition of mentoring. Consider this: mentoring is, at its core, one person sharing advice, perspectives, and ideas based on their experience. Notice that my definition does not relate to nor require a reference to age, job level, status, or function.

 

What kind of advice perspectives and ideas can a junior-level colleague share with a senior-level colleague?

*  Communication and style

*  Cultural knowledge

*  Technology

*  Social media

*  What it’s like to be an individual contributor

*  Being a newbie at the company

*  Customer viewpoints

*  Life in the cubes

*  Issues from the front line

*  Building relationships with individual contributors on the team

*  Being a successful leader

 

Ripples from Reverse Mentoring to Reciprocal Mentoring

When Individual Contributors mentor Leaders, they get the opportunity to contribute to the organization in new ways. These young Mentors are sought after for their knowledge, skills, opinions, ideas, perspectives, and even their advice. And that fuels morale, engagement, and ultimately retention. The ripple effect continues when the senior-level Mentee reciprocates by extending mentoring to the junior-level Mentor based on the trust they’ve already established.

 

How to Pilot a Reverse Mentoring Program

  • *  Determine the purpose
  • *  Recruit participants who want to accomplish that purpose
  • *  Establish a recommended structure
  • *  Match participants based on knowledge, skills, and perspectives wanted and needed
  • *  Kick-off the program by establishing expectations for both parties
  • *  Continue to guide participants’ success with ideas, touch points, articles, and discussion topics
  • *  Help them debrief, end their commitment, and redefine the relationship

 

Some Companies Leading the Trend:

>> When Jack Welch was CEO of GE, he championed Reverse Mentoring. He instructed 500 executives to connect with individual contributors to learn how to use the Internet. Jack participated as well, learning how to surf the web thanks to his Mentor, an employee in her 20s.

 

>> Founder and former CEO of Intel, Andy Grove encouraged reverse mentoring through “Technical Assistants,” who teach senior executives about things they need to know – marketing, brands, the Internet, competition, etc.

 

>> At Ogilvy & Mather, Managing Director Spencer Osborn learned how to spice up his Twitter posts from his younger Mentors.

 

>> Procter & Gamble (P&G) launched “Mentor Up” to partner senior male leaders (Mentees) with emerging female leaders (Mentors) and lowered its female employee turnover rate by 25% by exposing the senior male leaders to effective cross-gender communications.

 

Alan Webber, co-founder of Fast Company, summed up the concept nicely: “It’s a situation where the old fogies in an organization realize that by the time you’re in your forties and fifties, you’re not in touch with the future the same way the young twenty-something’s. They come with fresh eyes, open minds, and instant links to the technology of our future.”

 

June 6th, 2014 by lifemoxie

Debunking the Myth of Sponsors over Mentors

A participant in one of our programs called me last week and asked “Ann, I’m interviewing a potential Sponsor tomorrow. What questions should I ask?”

I replied: “That’s like approaching a stranger and asking, ‘Will you be my best friend?'”

 

Ever since the book Forget Mentors. Find a Sponsor! was released, people have been on a frenzy to push Mentors aside as they chase down the promise of a Sponsor.

 

Why?

 

Let’s look at what is dangled in front of intrepid career warriors:

    • “Mentors give friendly advice, but a sponsor has the power to get you the next job.”
    • “Sponsorship is how power is transferred in the workplace.”
    • “Mentors listen but sponsors act by telling you what you need to know, clearing obstacles from your path, and making your success their business.”

 

Whoa. Sign me up! I need one of those!

How do I get one?

 

Many ‘experts’ claim that anyone can get a Sponsor by:

    • exceeding expectations and making your performance known
    • demonstrating that you are trustworthy and loyal
    • bringing something special to the table
    • taking on challenges and succeed
    • owning your success
    • taking a stand

 

So if I do all of those things, a Sponsor will just appear like a fairy godmother out of thin air?

Uhhh…. yeah. I think it’s time to debunk this myth.

 

Reality Check

What’s a Sponsor?

    • Someone who advocates on your behalf, connecting you to important players and assignments
    • Someone who endorses and recommends you
    • Someone who puts their reputation on the line for you

 

Now, imagine you are the Sponsor. What would you need in order to put your reputation on the line for someone else?

Trust.

And how do you create that trust? By first developing a mentoring relationship with them. Whether it’s formal or informal, only mentoring will allow you to establish the trust in and exposure to someone’s work, results, character, and aspirations that you need in order to authentically advocate and endorse them as their Sponsor. Even a manager who wants to lobby for one of their employees for the next promotion or assignment wore a Mentor hat before they put on the Sponsor hat.

 

That’s the missing piece to this whole craze over Sponsors. Sponsors don’t appear from pixie dust. They evolve out of mentoring relationships.

 

Here’s how it works:

Imagine you are mentoring someone. You discover how fabulous they are. You see how hard they work, taking on challenges and exceeding expectations. You learn to trust that they will continue to wow. You believe in them. You are willing to endorse them for a future assignment. You then advocate for their success. You as the Mentor are now you as the Sponsor.

 

Sponsors evolve out of Mentors.

 

There’s no shortcut, abbreviation, or app to fast-track people to a Sponsor. They actually have to put in the time and effort to build meaningful mentoring relationships. Granted, it’s not ideal for an instant gratification society, but it’s worth it in the end for everyone.

 

So let’s put a halt to this notion of ‘forgetting Mentors!’ You’ll need them if you have any hope of effectively welcoming Sponsors to your workforce.

August 2nd, 2013 by lifemoxie

Highlights from the Cornfield: My Reflections on RAGBRAI

Reflecting on my joy-filled cycling adventure across Iowa last week in the 41st annual RAGBRAI with the fabulous Team Moxie in Motion, I remain captivated by the experience.

Here’s why:

*  10,000 cyclists cycled 407 miles across Iowa in one of the most organized cycling events ever

*  We climbed over 17,500 feet of hills (no, Iowa is not flat!)

*  Iowa is stunningly beautiful – the roads are fabulous, the towns clean, the air fresh, the fields sprawling, and the sky endless

*  People cheered for us in every small town from Omaha to Fort Madison as if we were heroes in a parade

*  No one was a stranger on or off the bike

*  No one cared about titles, jobs, or income – being a cycling nut in a cornfield instantly leveled the playing field

*  We relentlessly communicated with each other to ensure safety on the bikes – “Bike on!” and “Bike off!” were standard announcements

*  Cycling jerseys generated instant conversation and camaraderie

*  Spontaneity was essential – we swallowed experiences in each small town instead of racing to the campsite

*  Time was just something that buzzed pass us under our pedals

*  Patience was customary – no VIP lanes, Premier status, TSA pre-check, or Fast Passes for the port-a-potty, food, drinks, or repair lines

*  Everyone contributed and expressed appreciation at every turn

*  No one was a star, no one won, no one was in charge, but everyone was unique and special

*  We connected. We laughed. We were in the moment, on the bike, with complete strangers, without an agenda

 

Why did we so easily abandon our daily stresses and upsets and inhale the experience?

 

3 Brilliant Words

I attribute it to the wisdom tossed to us on Day 1. When our bus pulled into the Pork Belly Ventures campsite, this burly, enthusiastic Iowan jumped on to welcome us. He concluded with, “My best advice for you is this: lower your expectations.”

While at first we were struck by the oddity of this statement, we quickly realized the brilliance in those three words. Our experience was going to hinge on our outlook, which in turn depended entirely on our expectations.

With expectations in check, what happened is what we made happen as opposed to what we hoped (or expected to) happen. Suddenly we were in control of our outlook as opposed to victim to our circumstances.

 

 

Back from the Corn

Now that I’m back from the cornfield, I am desperately clinging to that refreshing approach, especially when the traffic, weather, crowds, computers, etc., don’t meet my expectations. I just need to remember the corn and lower my expectations.

 

Try it on and let me know what you think.

July 28th, 2013 by lifemoxie

Day 8 RAGBRAI – from Fairfield to Fort Madison, Iowa

Let’s hear it for Team Moxie in Motion for an amazing time at RAGBRAI! Here are some great pictures from their final day cycling through Iowa:

The last day started with a balloon rising over the stream of bikes.

Team Moxie in Motion is ready to take on Day 8!

Bonaparte didn’t know what hit when we descended upon the town…

The girls at a rest stop…

The town of West Point welcomed us with a 2-mile story pile of bikes! We instantly climbed to the top!

Mr. Porkchop is an icon at RAGBRAI! Best pork chops ever….and the line was 1/2 mile long to prove it! Pictured here is Rob & Chuck savoring Mr. Porkchop for lunch…

We caught an intrepid cyclist….

Team Moxie in Motion made it to the Mississippi River after pedaling 406 miles!

Rob’s expression said it best!

LOVE this quote! It encapsulates the remarkable experience we all had!

July 27th, 2013 by lifemoxie

Day 7 RAGBRAI – Oskaloosa to Fairfield, Iowa

Another amazing day full of fun and adventure!

Here are some pics from yesterday from the festivities….we entered a wooden shoe race and Dawn won by diving into the finish line! Dawn and I also won the cheese barrel race in Pella. Jeff participated in “Chuck a Huffy”, a fundraising event in Beacon, Iowa for Jump 4 Kids, a child youth mentoring organization.

Bussey, Iowa has not seen the likes of us in a long time!

Dawn on the Redneck Slip n'Slide!

Cows on bikes!

July 26th, 2013 by lifemoxie

Day 6 RAGBRAI – Knoxville to Oskaloosa via Pella

More colorful pictures of our journey across Iowa with over 10,000 cycling enthusiasts …

 

Day 6 Kick off!!

 

We love the town of Pella, a Dutch community in the middle of Iowa!

 

A bike made for 12!